An extensive knowledge of fetishes doesn’t come naturally; it takes work! The dommes in the fetish community work tirelessly to make sure your phone sex experience is as erotic and mind blowing as it can possibly be! We visit forums, we read blogs, we watch porn, we try out different techniques with our submissives and sexual partners. While the above methods of obtaining information are all useful, there’s nothing quite as illuminating as obtaining first hand experience from someone else in the fetish community!

I’ve always believed that “learning by doing” is the way to go. It helps you hone your skills in a practical environment, it gives you a chance to develop an internal dialogue of what you’re doing, and it allows you to ask detailed questions tailored to your specific experience! It’s not every day that you encounter someone willing to get down and dirty with you though! Many submissives won’t assume any role that requires them communicate instructions because they feel it would be insubordinate or disrespectful. Well I’ve experienced multiple encounters with a large variety of submissives and I can tell you that as long as a submissive maintains a humble attitude and doesn’t disrupt the balance of power within an encounter, I’m fine with receiving a little direction. It’s all about appropriate timing and delivery. Having a discussion with me after we try out a fetish is a fine time to give me guidance. Just know that during the phone sex call, I’m the boss!

I’ve recently had the opportunity to learn about a new fetish from an amazing and sassy submissive in my local fetish community. This specific fetish is called “queening” but you may know it as “pussy worship” or “smothering”. These terms both describe it partially, but aren’t completely accurate. Queening describes the act of dominating a submissive partner with your pussy and/or ass while they are completely immobilized and at your mercy. When I found out about this fetish from my extremely well traveled submissive friend, I was only too excited to try it out with him! As many of you know from reading my phone sex blog on mmophonesex, bodyworship calls are my favorite calls to get!

During this most recent bodyworship encounter, I started out by lashing my submissive friend to the bed. I tied his arms to the headboard and his feet to the bottom of the bed in a spread eagle position. He was completely unable to move any part of his body and was utterly at my mercy. This position is ideal for both phone sex and real life queening encounters because it keeps the submissive completely still while he is being dominated. Mild smothering isn’t dangerous, but it does trigger reflexes in the body that could disrupt the encounter if the submissive isn’t adequately restrained.

While my friend was restrained, I made sure to prepare him for the queening by slowly removing my thong and stuffing it in his mouth. This made the mild asphyxiation from the smothering that much more erotic, because it closed up more viable breathing pathways. I then squatted over him, allowing him to sample my curvy and voluptuous ass. After teasing him for a few minutes, and allowing him to get hard, I slowly lowered my ass and pussy over his nose and mouth. I squatted over his head applying light pressure while rubbing myself off on his face and allowing his nose to graze against my clit. I applied more and more pressure slowly as I increased the intensity of my movements. I could see his swollen cock leaking precum as he frantically tried to nip and lick at my pussy. Unfortunately for him, it was just out of the reach of his mouth. I DID allow my pussy lips to graze over his eyes once, and he fluttered his eyelashes to stimulate me, sending a shock of pleasure through my body. At this point, I could see he was aching with pleasure and completely at my mercy; this was when I finally lowered my pussy completely onto his face, effectively straddling his nose and mouth. I rocked back and forth on his face until I came onto his straining and trembling form.

What an incredible experience that was. It truly took a lot of  discipline on the part of both the domme and the submissive to be a fulfilling encounter for both parties. If you think you’re up to the task, you should call me for some queening phonesex! Queen Bea will reign over your cock!